Within the last year our family has had to place a family member in a manor. At the time we thought that was the best place for them, as they were assessed at a Level 4 care.
We thought by placing our family member we were doing what was best for them. We thought that they would get professional care and spend the rest of their living days in comfort. Our family member is agitated because he has been separated from his spouse after 74 years.
Because of his yelling, he was over-medicated to the point of being unresponsive to the point of becoming dehydrated. Within one year he has had six falls leaving severe bruises on him.
Recently, because of his yelling, another resident struck him across his face. We were told by a nursing director that a dementia patient struck him and we had to understand that things like that happen.
We have already had elder abuse officials contacted once and are thinking we may have to call them again.
I hope that this letter will allow other families that are asking themselves what is going on with their loved one to not accept this is the way it is. A lot of times the elderly can't speak for themselves and they need someone to make a stand.